August 25, 2015 (Gephardt Daily/UPI) – A Georgia mother’s open letter about Anna Duggar has gone viral on Facebook, in the wake of Josh Duggar’s cheating confession after his accounts were discovered as part of Ashley Madison’s subscription leaks last week.
The author, suburban Atlanta mom Jessica Krammes Kirkland, encouraged parents in her post to raise their daughters to have self-respect amidst the news that Anna Duggar will remain by her husband’s side.
The post, which was written on August 20, has been liked 432,000 times and shared 238,000 times.
The letter reads: “I know everybody is laughing about this Josh Duggar story. Oh, a DUGGAR on Ashley Madison, it’s so rich! I wish more people would talk about Anna. I normally keep things light on Facebook, but let’s talk about Anna. Let me tell you: Anna Duggar is in the worst position she could possibly be in right now. Anna Duggar was crippled by her parents by receiving no education, having no work experience (or life experience, for that matter) and then was shackled to this loser because his family was famous in their religious circle. Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife, and a mother. Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go and this is what she got in reward- a husband who she found out, in the span of 6 months, not only molested his own sisters, but was unfaithful to her in the most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her “duty” of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and Godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. “Be this,” they told her. She was. It wasn’t enough.
What is Anna Duggar supposed to do? She can’t divorce because the religious environment she was brought up would blame her and ostracize her for it. Even if she would risk that, she has no education and no work experience to fall back on, so how does she support her kids? From where could she summon the ability to turn her back on everything she ever held to be sacred and safe? Her beliefs, the very thing she would turn to for comfort in this kind of crisis, are the VERY REASON she is in this predicament in the first place. How can she reconcile this? Her parents have utterly, utterly failed her. Think of this: somewhere, Anna Duggar is sitting in prayer, praying not for the strength to get out and stand on her own, but for the strength to stand by this man she is unfortunately married to. To lower herself so that he may rise up on her back.
As a mother of daughters, this makes me ill. Parents, WE MUST DO BETTER BY OUR DAUGHTERS. Boys, men, are born with power. Girls have to command it for themselves. They aren’t given it. They assume it and take it. But you have to teach them to do it, that they can do it. We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don’t have to marry a man their father deems “acceptable” and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE. Educate them. Empower them. Give them the tools they need to survive, on their own if they must. Josh Duggar should be cowering in fear of Anna Duggar right now. Cowering. He isn’t, but he should be. He should be quaking in fear that the house might fall down around them if he’s in the same room as she. Please, instill your daughters with the resolve to make a man cower if he must. To say “I don’t deserve this, and my children don’t deserve this.” I wish someone had ever, just once, told Anna she was capable of this. That she knew she is. As for my girls, I’ll raise them to think they breathe fire.”
Gawker reported that the former “19 Kids and Counting” star may have spent as much as $986.76 for two subscriptions on AshleyMadison.com. The site helps married people find others for affairs.
Hackers have released stolen data, including email addresses, about the site’s members. Avid Life Media, the company that owns the infidelity website, confirmed that some of the stolen data released was legitimate, according to Reuters.
Gawker found that a credit card in the name of Joshua Duggar, with a billing address that matches the home of the Duggar family grandma Mary, was used to pay for two subscriptions between February 2013 and May 2015. The home was consistently shown on their now-cancelled TV show.
Duggar, 27, is married to Anna, who frequently appeared on the family’s hit TLC reality show. The couple are parents to four young children.
Back in May, Jill Duggar Dillard and Jessa Duggar Seewald revealed they were among those sexually abused as children by Josh. He molested five minor children — four of them his siblings — more than a decade ago. He was never charged with or convicted of a crime.
The docu-series about the devoutly Christian family was yanked from TLC’s schedule amid the growing scandal.